The beginning of your
story is in Genesis. Like good food (fruit, vegetables, complex
carbohydrates, good protein), true doctrine makes a true difference in a
successful life. You will understand your significance as you move
through Scripture comparing one passage with others. Your life is a
continuation of the story of Adam and Eve. When the man and woman
disobeyed their Creator, He justly punished the man and woman, our original
parents, but He did not take their dominion away, neither did he take their
individuality away.
Since God has given
you a spirit, soul and body, "And the very God of peace sanctify you
wholly; and I pray God your whole spirit and soul and body be preserved
blameless unto the coming of our Lord Jesus Christ." (I Thessalonians
5:23). They are yours to develop and refine. Giving your individuality away,
squelching it, harms you and those around you: your perspective, what you
believe, your heart, your personality, and your abilities are for here and
now. They are gifts from your Creator to you. Many facets of women,
and their right to grow in them, have been dismissed by both the Church
(Christianity) and men in leadership.
Gifted women must be
cautious. When I was growing up, my quiet but cerebral mother told me that to
some men a woman who grows in her abilities is a threat. But there is a
beautiful path to becoming whole: to girls, to females, to women, your
distinctiveness is a gift from your Creator.
When the man and woman
sinned in the garden, God did not take personality and individuality from Eve,
just as it was not taken from the man. God did not take dominion from the
woman or the man when they disobeyed. What God did was to give them each a
handicap; their lives would now be harder. To the man God said, "By
the sweat of your face you will eat bread;" (Genesis 3:19) he would never
get out of it: earning a living would be hard. To the woman God warned:
"I will greatly multiply your sorrow ... in sorrow you will bring forth
children; and your desire will be to your husband, and he will rule (have
power) over you." (Genesis 3:16). God had warned her.
But some men abuse
this. We see it today in the buying and selling of women; domestic violence
happens.
Women need not accept this unfair control and abuse. Accept God’s discipline "Whom the Lord loves he
corrects..."(Proverbs 3:12) and run with it. Speak up.
“Speaking the truth in love . . .” (Ephesians 4:15) Watch what God does in your
personality and confidence, your life, your marriage, your future. God is Good! He made you;
why suppress your uniqueness? Handle the challenge, grow wise; grow to be whole. Earn your husband's respect and the respect of every person in your world. "And
the very God of peace sanctify you wholly; and I pray God your whole spirit and
soul and body be preserved blameless unto the coming of our Lord Jesus
Christ." (I Thessalonians 5:23)